VICTOR OR VICTIM

(From my book of Aphorisms- 'Thoughts To Make You Think' By Helen Leigh - http://thoughtstomakeyouthink.doomby.com  - Chapter One - Personal Development)



There are two ways you can handle your problems: Victor or Victim Mentality.

A Victim, implodes, takes the problem personally like it is a reflection on them and as an attack and then keeps, 'TRYING' to either make it better or be understood and usually to the something that caused this problem in the first place that doesn't care, which results in the Victim becoming Emotional: Angry, Hysterical, Depressed or violent.
There is no detached awareness.

The Victor Mentality, see's the problem and knows where it is coming from and doesn't react.
The Victor Stands their ground and does not entertain the problem, but instead waits, watches and then resolves it having analysed how the problem is coming in.

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